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Now that I have your attention…

Although I can’t respond to every blog response to my “Losing My Religion”  and subsequent posts, I do want to include the comment I left over on OSV Daily Take this morning because this is my former blog home and because OSV is still family to me. I feel I owe it to them to be sure people see that post and my response to it. 

Here’s a brief snippet of the post, but please go read the whole thing when you’re done here:

“If a parish is struggling, talk to one that is thriving. Open conversations to collaboration across the universal Church. If we work together out of love, I believe we can bring about far more change than by walking away.”

Here is my response:

I am not telling people to walk away from the Church. I’m telling them to walk away from a particular parish when that parish continually fails to feed them. I’m talking about trying to bring about change so that people are finally getting something meaningful from their parishes, which is what they deserve.

And, although my writing about it doesn’t sound like I’m doing much, I am. People are talking about it. Mission accomplished.

This was never about one homily, or one priest, or even one parish. This was about a larger, more pervasive problem. People are choosing to focus on the homily aspect because it’s easier than dealing with the hard truth of people leaving our Church in droves. Why are they leaving? I want to keep them from leaving. I want to get back the ones who have already left, and I was willing to put my neck on the line to bring attention to it.

I love my faith. If I didn’t love my faith and my Church, I would have quietly walked away. What I said, I said out of love because we have the Truth, but if we aren’t feeding people and giving them what they need, they’ll never hear it.

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  1. Maria Mangini #

    AMEN! Thank you Mary for speaking the truth and advocating for our faith and our church! I am with you and know you are doing the right thing. You are living in the Spirit as Jesus instructed us to do. Much love to you….Jesus told us we would be persecuted..stand strong and know that God is smiling. May you feel His light upon you.

    September 24, 2013
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      Thank you!

      September 24, 2013
  2. Thank you, Mary, for linking to my OSV Daily Take post here. I appreciate it! I posted a brief response on OSV’s blog:

    “Thank you for responding, Mary! I realize that you meant leaving a particular parish, not the Church as a whole. As difficult as it may be, I believe we can help build those parishes up instead of abandoning them with the suggestions I included at the end of the post.

    And, yes, there are many other problems that need to be addressed, but your post dealt with the Mass, and that is the discussion that we are having at the moment. Thank you for initiating it — I hope it proves fruitful.”

    September 24, 2013
    • Mary DeTurris Poust #

      Thank you, Jennifer.

      September 24, 2013
  3. Author says: “Talk to your priests, talk to your liturgists, and better yet, let’s talk between parishes.” REALLY???? Has she been in a parish? Has she tried to talk to a priest about his homilies? Has she tried to deal with a liturgist? Few – FAR TOO FEW – preists are humble enough to let go and let God, much less let go and let the people take over. I don’t mean a revolution, but good Lord! I’ve been doing this Catholic think all my life and every time I’ve tried to explain to a priest how he’s hurt someone’s feelings (“Renee, why did XXX leave? I haven’t seen XXX in awhile…”) HE NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER ever took responsibility. When I’ve offered to edit homilies, I’ve been told to mind my own business. When my husband was slapped down in confession and I told the priest, he said, “Well, you can’t let one expereince determine your faith.” Wanna bet?????????????????? ARgh!!!! There. Off soapbox. But Mary, stick with it and I hope to join in your defense after my day job. xoxoxo

    September 24, 2013
  4. Mary,
    Thank you for that! 🙂

    September 25, 2013
  5. Beth #

    I really understand your struggles as they are mine as well!!!

    Here is a book on rebuilding parishes that may offer some helpful insight:

    September 30, 2013

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